While I was at the hospital, where there were no pictures taken, Dallas and Aslen got a whirlwind tour of Nan's home for the last 4+ years. Above are Dallas and Aslen by Nan's old bed, and then a picture of Nan's classmates. According to Dallas the visit was very structured and they did not allow them to ask any questions from the question list or take pictures from the picture list. Dallas left the picture list with Coco who said she would e-mail Dallas pictures of all the children listed. We were very disappointed.Nan and Aslen are getting along great. Nan and Dallas are getting along great. But I have managed to adopt the only Chinese person who doesn't like me. I think she is mad at me for taking her to the hospital. It was a tough morning for her. Tomorrow is another day
3 comments:
Jolean,
Sounds like you're having a rough trip. It's your love she wants the most and is most afraid of. If you can hang onto your "loving her" part, she'll find her "loving you" part. :-)
(Not trying to be bossy...I do attachment work in my practice and know how discouraging it can get!)
Stephanie
Jolean,
Don't be discouraged. Dallas and Aslen are not taking the place of anyone in Nan's life. She is losing the only people she has ever had to bond to-her nannies-and you will be taking their place in her life. You will be a lot more to her than they could ever be, but she doesn't realize that yet because she has never had a mother before. She is mourning the loss of them. When she has completed mourning their loss, she will bond to you, her mother, and will love you. She is just working through some huge changes in her short life. Hang in there.
Love,
Mother
Hello to All. A little time and lots of TLC in your own home and things will work out. Your children will love you 99.9% of the time the other % they love you too. They just don't know it.
So take it easy on your self Jolean. Nan loves you but she just does not know it yet. This is a big change for everyone. You are a very careing and loving Mother. And Nan will soon know that.
Be safe and enjoy the rest of your time there.Each day will be better --Shirley--
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